I have been waiting all my life for someone to give me the answer to this title. How DO YOU become more confident?

Seriously guys, the answer is different for everyone. Some people are born with the confidence of a Mule others, like me, are not. We are shy and so self conscious. We scroll thru Instagram and Pinterest and see who we are not. Me, yes me. I done that. I done it for years and years. I was more confident when social media wasn't a thing, but still not confident enough to smile at a stranger or even look up. So what changed? No clue. Maybe the last 2-3 years of non stop self help books, podcast, and you tube videos. Maybe it really is an age thing. Maybe, just maybe, its because I stopped concentrating on myself so much. Well more like obsessing over myself. Ugh Mindy, get a life. I stared focusing on others. Now, most of you will think its through my photography, I mean this is a Photographers blog, but its not. Health and Fitness is where I went to. I started my on again and off again fitness journey going on 10 years now (more about that later in another post) and it really helped me physically. Still needed some mental health, truth be told I probably still doubt hey whatever. So I started a private FB group. Built for Adventure. I'm sure you have heard of me. LOL Just kidding. Anyway, its a place where I wanted people to feel safe and loved and accepted no matter their shape or size or their athletic ability. Its where I wanted to go to give people the tools and tips to have an Adventurous life. Not on a concentrated on diet. Once people stop hyper focusing on the HAVE TOO's and SHOULD NOTS, their mind set starts to change. It becomes I would love too and I would like to try. You start breathing again. You start seeing yourself as you were intended to be. For me, when I see people on my group start to come to life, then so do I. I have seen people run their first half marathon. Post their first selfie. Do their first 5K at 50 years old. Hike 5 miles. Show up to group workouts with strangers. Smile. So, if I can see these people gain or regain their confidence, then why can't I be that beautiful Confident Woman as well. It takes years of hard work and determination to even begin to feel human. But its also going to take not being selfish. You are going to have to love yourself enough to be able to let go of the horrid thoughts that you aren't enough. Cause Sister, let me tell you, you are enough.

My sweet sweet friends.

A favor please. Please, get in front of the camera. Everyone has flaws and insecurities, but instead of hiding them, lets embrace them. Lets show the other Women out their, we are not scared. We own every laugh line, every dimple, every wild curl that is out of place, and some of us, not me, we own that grey hair! Me personally, Im not at that last one just yet. Ill keep covering that. Take that selfie and post it Ladies! Embarrass those sweet teenage kids!